Determination + compassion = fearshifting
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Committing to posting three times a week on set days has been an interesting experience for me. Previously I’d post only occasionally, when the urge to write coincided with some free time. Now I’m regularly writing three posts a week – almost always posted within a few hours of midnight on the night the post is due. So what’s happening with my motivation? Let’s start with a quick diversion into some thoughts on fear.
Ways of dealing with fear
I was thinking about methods for dealing with fear earlier, and I’ve been trying to synthesise two ideas. The first is the “feel the fear and do it anyway” school of thought. Pushing through the fear to overcome it.
The second is the method that Havi teaches – your fear is there to protect you and it will tell you why if you ask it. You don’t want to bulldoze through your fear because you created it and it’s a part of you. Instead, listen to it and dissolve it with compassion.
What I’ve noticed is that I’m only able to apply Havi’s method – talking to fear – when I’m determined to do the thing that I fear. It’s like once the intent is there, the fear shows up clearly, and I’m able to meet it and work with it compassionately.
If I’m not determined to do the thing that I fear, the fear lies in hiding, and I’m not able to do anything about it. It’s only when I’m determined to do the thing that I’m able to make progress.
And back to blog posting
When I have the determination to write a post, and to write it right Now, everything falls into place. When it’s late at night and I’ve promised a post by midnight, the right mindset comes forward and the words flow. Until that determination is present, I’m fuzzy and unproductive.
Conclusion: Determination is the key that makes things happen. Compassion is how you go about it so you don’t beat yourself up along the way.
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